From: ASL4U on Mar 01 05, 14:47

Please do not believe that if your partner has a child - it is WITH you - in any sense of the word - with. That does not exist... it will look good - it will feel good and then - when/if she leaves you - you will NOT have children. They are NOT yours...
I just spent the last 5 1/2 years of my life LOVING my partner and our (her) children. When the baby was old enough for kindergarten - she took the kids and left... and they are just Gone.
she does not encourage contact - no one in her family encourages contact - if I try to have contact - it hurts me... and it hurts them.. (all of them - and I still lover her very very much) and unless I want to go to court - and attempt to get legal recognition - as a Parent... and FORCE that family - to PERMIT me visitation.. the fact is - the kids are not mine. And that fact is supported by the family, by the schools, by our culture - even by your friends... cuz when/if she leaves you... everyone - EVERYONE will tell you that its better if you "just let it go"...

dont do it. or at the very least - dont believe it - If you want a baby - have one.. but do not believe that a baby that is concieved in a partnership is Yours... unless you are the biological mother - it is NOT yours... it is just not. and no matter how much time and energy and love and life you give to your family and your children - the fact that you Have a family and children depends entirely on wishes, desires and whims of the biological mother (and sometimes the biological father...

been there - done it... will live with the loss for the rest of my life... and I'm not alone...
 

From: ASL4U on Mar 01 05, 14:47

Please do not believe that if your partner has a child - it is WITH you - in any sense of the word - with. That does not exist... it will look good - it will feel good and then - when/if she leaves you - you will NOT have children. They are NOT yours...
I just spent the last 5 1/2 years of my life LOVING my partner and our (her) children. When the baby was old enough for kindergarten - she took the kids and left... and they are just Gone.
she does not encourage contact - no one in her family encourages contact - if I try to have contact - it hurts me... and it hurts them.. (all of them - and I still lover her very very much) and unless I want to go to court - and attempt to get legal recognition - as a Parent... and FORCE that family - to PERMIT me visitation.. the fact is - the kids are not mine. And that fact is supported by the family, by the schools, by our culture - even by your friends... cuz when/if she leaves you... everyone - EVERYONE will tell you that its better if you "just let it go"...

dont do it. or at the very least - dont believe it - If you want a baby - have one.. but do not believe that a baby that is concieved in a partnership is Yours... unless you are the biological mother - it is NOT yours... it is just not. and no matter how much time and energy and love and life you give to your family and your children - the fact that you Have a family and children depends entirely on wishes, desires and whims of the biological mother (and sometimes the biological father...

been there - done it... will live with the loss for the rest of my life... and I'm not alone...
 

From: ASL4U on Oct 11 04, 22:25

Hi - any shoes into Haflingers? 

From: ASL4U on Oct 11 04, 22:25

Hi - any shoes into Haflingers?